Agile Beyond the Workplace
Many of us in this field have had our work habits affect our family life - frequently for the better. Some of us use index cards in their daily life for scheduling, prioritizing, and discussing daily tasks with their families. Peter Abilla blogged about how he uses a Job Chart (a type of information radiator) to teach his children.
This Job Chart is in our kitchen, where there is frequent foot traffic and where our family spends most of our time.
- My wife and I first met together to discuss our goals for the year 2008 and how we could accomplish those goals and the expected outcomes at the end of 2008. We then brainstormed all the jobs that needed to get done in our household on a daily and weekly basis. We, then, categorized the jobs based on age and abilities of our children. For example, we had to be sensitive to the child’s height or the size of their hand and matched the work to their physical and mental abilities.
- We gathered the family together and explained our goals and vision for 2008 as it relates to the principle of work. I explained to the kids how important work is and I also shared my personal stories about the principle of work. I showed encouragement and excitement to the kids and that learning the principle of work will help them "feel big" and not little anymore.
- My wife and I explained our expectations and discussed rewards and consequences and also the start-date.
- We provided training on some jobs that the kids were not familiar with. This is especially true for my twins, as this is their first foray into a more structured world of chores and work.
- Every night during our family prayer, we discuss how the day went and how their jobs are going.
- The 3 older kids have other diversions also like homework, piano, playing the Wii, and hanging out with friends. We want to make sure that they can still do other stuff and not be too burdened by any single item.
- Depending on the findings during our daily discussions, then we adjust. For some kids, they might have to double-up on work the next day so they can do homework. We do not want to Batch work like that, but that is an option until further discussions can be had on whether there might be too much work.
Peter also focuses on respecting people (i.e. his children):
The Job Chart conveys information so that Mom and Dad don’t have to. When Mom or Dad have to convey the information, it usually ends-up as nagging. That approach is irritating, disrespectful, and polarizes people. We want, instead, to teach self-reliance, demonstrate our trust in the kids, and help them grow in their own terms, but with our loving guidance.
Many of the practices that we learn in the workplace, that we truly believe has value, end up in our daily lives. What practices have you taken home to your family? How have they worked? Does this cycle back to the workplace after its use and modification at home?
Re: job chart
As long as you're doing the do-reflect-tweak-do cycle, with open conversation about how it's working, shouldn't a group/family/couple be able to quickly work toward some arrangement that is satisfactory and beneficial to both?
I guess one thing that's different in a family scenario is the issue of power - usually, parents have it, kids don't! In a "self organizing family," would the leaves in the yard ever get raked? :-)
Yoni Goldberg Oct 30, 2014
Dmytro Svarytsevych Oct 30, 2014